Dying to Live

Life and Death go hand in hand: the constant relationship we all exist in. Always there, regardless of whether we mindfully breathe deeply or take for granted our breath; always there whether we feel less than well or very well. All other relationships exist within this primary one.  In this attraction of opposites, death however [...]

What’s Trust Got To Do With it?

Trust me….Trust me not…Trust…. For some, a suspicious relationship with trust is born from trust being broken after being either promised or taken as a given. It’s like being promised warm sunshine, and then a cloud comes along out of nowhere, and you feel that sudden chill; the sparkle is erased with blobs of grey [...]

You say it best…

Our need to be right is sometimes so desperate that it’s willing to step on hearts, minds, esteem, to win that coveted title, ‘I’m right!’ and we all know the silent second part to that loaded statement: ‘you’re wrong!’ What is it with some people and pedestals? Isn’t it lonely and cold up there! In [...]

Bless me, Father, for I have not sinned…

There was always a type of ‘tug of war’ in my mind between whether to have children or whether to choose not to. No, our younger selves, never think ’maybe I can’t!’I always felt time was on my side from my twenties to my thirties and even when I looked ahead to my forties: I [...]

The Stepping Stones to You and Me

Jack: when first found Jack: trusting again C.S. Lewis said, ‘To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact you must give it to no one, not even an animal. Wrap it carefully round with [...]

Last Christmas

Last Christmas feels like the other day and without sounding ‘first worldish’ in my ‘oh woe is me’ - I’m really fearful of this coming one: because I don’t want to feel the way I did last Christmas. Oh yes, the handle came off my front door literally and my world seemed to come undone. [...]

The thing about adjectives!

The thing about adjectives is: we need to watch how they change us! Adjectives modify nouns. And that’s fine and dandy when that noun is an inanimate object like a table or a chair. We don’t just buy tables and chairs. We buy that ‘white table’ or those ‘retro chairs’. Adjectives help us decide whether [...]

The Smells of our Lives:

Life can be broken into different chapters: relationships, locations, careers, and then there are (those) smells.  A recent study, showed that our brains integrate smell with information about space and time to form episodic memories. And we all know how a smell can whizz us back to a ‘there and then’ episode of our lives.  [...]

Dying to Kill: Saturday morning with the lads

I should be sitting opposite a client right now; actively listening, observing, and asking all those open ended questions that might lead to some sort of resolution or much needed revelations. Instead I find myself sitting in my car at the side of a road I’ve nicknamed ‘the rollercoaster’ such are the hills and sharp [...]